Comments on: Stay Curious and Open to Life http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/ Happiness As a Spiritual Practice Fri, 12 Mar 2010 04:20:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jean http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/comment-page-1/#comment-603 Jean Fri, 08 Feb 2008 05:20:01 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/#comment-603 <strong>Todd</strong>, Yes, well, I'm still practicing on this issue. I hadn't heard from the insurance company since I talked to a representative last month. It sounded promising at the time, but when she resubmitted the claim she forgot to include the claim number. So nothing has happened in the past month. The fellow I talked to today said he would resubmit with the claim number but don't expect anything to happen for at least 30-45 business days. He was clearly uninterested in the case and going through the motions. One good thing happened, though: I wasn't put on hold for long. I just had to go through the menu up front, but no long wait. It's so ridiculous it's funny. I may phone again and try to get someone higher up. It's only been 7 months now. :) Anyway, thanks for coming by and commenting. Todd,
Yes, well, I’m still practicing on this issue. I hadn’t heard from the insurance company since I talked to a representative last month. It sounded promising at the time, but when she resubmitted the claim she forgot to include the claim number. So nothing has happened in the past month. The fellow I talked to today said he would resubmit with the claim number but don’t expect anything to happen for at least 30-45 business days. He was clearly uninterested in the case and going through the motions. One good thing happened, though: I wasn’t put on hold for long. I just had to go through the menu up front, but no long wait. It’s so ridiculous it’s funny. I may phone again and try to get someone higher up. It’s only been 7 months now.

:) Anyway, thanks for coming by and commenting.

]]> By: Todd http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/comment-page-1/#comment-600 Todd Thu, 07 Feb 2008 23:49:41 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/#comment-600 ummm, yea....I have totally shifted my approach when it comes to dealing with customer service representatives. I used to enter the conversations already angry...and the frustration would get worse and worse until I would explode!! Now I have fun with it....I prepare myself that it may take some time to resolve the situation, and get on the phone happy and light...and I actually try and relate to the other person. It has totally shifted my results....UNREAL! Thanks for the article... Todd ummm, yea….I have totally shifted my approach when it comes to dealing with customer service representatives. I used to enter the conversations already angry…and the frustration would get worse and worse until I would explode!!

Now I have fun with it….I prepare myself that it may take some time to resolve the situation, and get on the phone happy and light…and I actually try and relate to the other person.

It has totally shifted my results….UNREAL! Thanks for the article…
Todd

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]]> By: tracy ho http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/comment-page-1/#comment-537 tracy ho Fri, 18 Jan 2008 08:08:43 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/#comment-537 Great post , good tips & advise, Thanks again , Tracy Ho wisdomgettingloaded Great post , good tips & advise,

Thanks again ,

Tracy Ho
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]]> By: bikehikebabe http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/comment-page-1/#comment-536 bikehikebabe Thu, 17 Jan 2008 21:53:19 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/#comment-536 Ellen says "...welcome the feelings & listen to them." You must have read The Power of Focusing by Ann W. Cornell. Ellen says “…welcome the feelings & listen to them.” You must have read The Power of Focusing by Ann W. Cornell.

]]> By: Jean http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/comment-page-1/#comment-535 Jean Thu, 17 Jan 2008 20:19:28 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/#comment-535 <strong>Ellen</strong>, My comment about worrying was a bit simplistic. Worry to me is watching those scary thoughts go racing through my mind in an endless loop. So my best strategy for that is to give my overactive mind something more constructive to work on. But that doesn't necessarily make the fear go away. The thing that works best for me there is to sit quietly, welcome the feelings and listen to them. They want to be acknowledged, and for me being curious and giving them loving attention is the best way of connecting with the deepest parts of myself. It's what we talked about in <a href="http://cheerfulmonk.com/2007/12/03/holy-curiosity/" rel="nofollow">Holy Curiosity</a>. Thanks for bringing this up. Ellen,
My comment about worrying was a bit simplistic. Worry to me is watching those scary thoughts go racing through my mind in an endless loop. So my best strategy for that is to give my overactive mind something more constructive to work on. But that doesn’t necessarily make the fear go away. The thing that works best for me there is to sit quietly, welcome the feelings and listen to them. They want to be acknowledged, and for me being curious and giving them loving attention is the best way of connecting with the deepest parts of myself. It’s what we talked about in Holy Curiosity. Thanks for bringing this up.

]]> By: Jean http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/comment-page-1/#comment-534 Jean Thu, 17 Jan 2008 07:09:47 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/#comment-534 <strong>Ellen</strong>, I agree with your four stages of change. The way I heard it was (1) unconscious incompetence, (2) conscious incompetence, (3) conscious competence, and (4) unconscious competence. "Competence" meaning are you doing the behavior you desire. It's just what you're saying. I, too, tend to be a worrier, but I'm getting much better with experience. I tend to generate all sorts of contingency plans, because I love creative problem solving. So I don't ignore the future or necessarily paint a bright, trouble-free picture. I just get into a different part of my brain and play with ideas. I also remember my mother who said later in life, "My only regret is that I worried so much." Bless her! I like your attitude that it's a challenge you're working on. And if you're between a (2) and a (3), you're more than halfway there. :)   <strong>Sean</strong>, It looks like your blog is a great way for you to remind yourself to be positive. Good for you! <strong>Adam--Adam's Peace</strong>, :) Small significant steps add up. Please let us know how it goes. We're rooting for you. <strong>Truthteller</strong>, I tried following your link, but for some reason it didn't work. I'll try again some other time. I do like your mantra, "Can I have fun doing this?" <strong> Square-Peg Karen</strong>, I love the idea behind your site--being a square peg in a round hole and enjoying it. That's me! I also like your comment: "it feels like I’m sitting down to tea with you - very natural". That's what this blog is about, just friends getting together for a chat about subjects that are near and dear to our hearts. <strong>Craig</strong>, I agree, it helps to put things in perspective and not waste our energy and attention on things that aren't that important. For me that means being clear about what I do want to do with my energy. <strong>bikehikebabe</strong>, I agree, it also helps a lot when things turn out the way you want them to. I also think there's a difference between being upset and mourning our losses. :) <strong>Again, thanks for joining in, everyone.</strong> Ellen,
I agree with your four stages of change. The way I heard it was (1) unconscious incompetence, (2) conscious incompetence, (3) conscious competence, and (4) unconscious competence. “Competence” meaning are you doing the behavior you desire. It’s just what you’re saying.

I, too, tend to be a worrier, but I’m getting much better with experience. I tend to generate all sorts of contingency plans, because I love creative problem solving. So I don’t ignore the future or necessarily paint a bright, trouble-free picture. I just get into a different part of my brain and play with ideas. I also remember my mother who said later in life, “My only regret is that I worried so much.” Bless her!

I like your attitude that it’s a challenge you’re working on. And if you’re between a (2) and a (3), you’re more than halfway there. :)
 

Sean,
It looks like your blog is a great way for you to remind yourself to be positive. Good for you!

Adam–Adam’s Peace,
:) Small significant steps add up. Please let us know how it goes. We’re rooting for you.

Truthteller,
I tried following your link, but for some reason it didn’t work. I’ll try again some other time. I do like your mantra, “Can I have fun doing this?”

Square-Peg Karen,
I love the idea behind your site–being a square peg in a round hole and enjoying it. That’s me!

I also like your comment: “it feels like I’m sitting down to tea with you – very natural”. That’s what this blog is about, just friends getting together for a chat about subjects that are near and dear to our hearts.

Craig,
I agree, it helps to put things in perspective and not waste our energy and attention on things that aren’t that important. For me that means being clear about what I do want to do with my energy.

bikehikebabe,
I agree, it also helps a lot when things turn out the way you want them to. I also think there’s a difference between being upset and mourning our losses.

:) Again, thanks for joining in, everyone.

]]> By: bikehikebabe http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/comment-page-1/#comment-533 bikehikebabe Thu, 17 Jan 2008 05:33:25 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/#comment-533 This is for Craig Harper who sent "As long as nobody's dying and it doesn't affect the warming of the planet then it probably isn't worth getting yourself upset about." I'd lost my best wool cap & was upset, I must admit. Craig's statement helped. (I found the cap. That really helped.) This is for Craig Harper who sent “As long as nobody’s dying and it doesn’t affect the warming of the planet then it probably isn’t worth getting yourself upset about.”
I’d lost my best wool cap & was upset, I must admit. Craig’s statement helped. (I found the cap. That really helped.)

]]> By: Craig Harper http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/comment-page-1/#comment-531 Craig Harper Thu, 17 Jan 2008 02:11:08 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/#comment-531 Hey Jean, Great Blog! Everyday you can choose the attitude you going to carry into that day. Some days situations occur that are out of your control and it's your choice in how you deal with them. As long as nobody's dying and it doesn't affect the warming of the planet then it probably isn't worth getting yourself upset about. Curious and open is a great strategy! Hey Jean,
Great Blog!
Everyday you can choose the attitude you going to carry into that day. Some days situations occur that are out of your control and it’s your choice in how you deal with them. As long as nobody’s dying and it doesn’t affect the warming of the planet then it probably isn’t worth getting yourself upset about.
Curious and open is a great strategy!

]]> By: Square-Peg Karen http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/comment-page-1/#comment-530 Square-Peg Karen Wed, 16 Jan 2008 20:58:52 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/01/14/stay-curious-and-open-to-life/#comment-530 Oh Jean, I came over here to find out about you, after reading your comment on my blog. OHMY - now I have even more to thank "Using my powers for good" Jenny for (she's my coach! lucky me!!). I'm so happy about finding your blog - I'm going to be checking in here frequently - I am SO loving the wisdom of your writing (and the way it feels like I'm sitting down to tea with you - very natural). Thanks so much! Oh Jean,

I came over here to find out about you, after reading your comment on my blog. OHMY – now I have even more to thank “Using my powers for good” Jenny for (she’s my coach! lucky me!!).

I’m so happy about finding your blog – I’m going to be checking in here frequently – I am SO loving the wisdom of your writing (and the way it feels like I’m sitting down to tea with you – very natural).

Thanks so much!

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