Comments on: Does “Common” Really Suck? http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/ Happiness As a Spiritual Practice Thu, 09 Feb 2012 23:08:36 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Jean http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/comment-page-1/#comment-867 Jean Fri, 11 Apr 2008 17:15:11 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/#comment-867 Darren, I agree. That's why I keep my opinions short in my posts and why I love comments. It's the sharing and interaction that's important to me. Thank you for participating. :) Darren,
I agree. That’s why I keep my opinions short in my posts and why I love comments. It’s the sharing and interaction that’s important to me. Thank you for participating. :)

]]> By: Darren Daz Cox http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/comment-page-1/#comment-864 Darren Daz Cox Fri, 11 Apr 2008 02:12:05 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/#comment-864 I think we all can be unique and important without busting our chops to learn something tricky or do something extreme. Take blogging for example, your opinion is the most important one, because it's your blog, but when you start to doubt your own importance you start linking to more and more content by other people, some people are so afraid to have an opinion they just post links to other peoples blogs, as if being a middleman makes them part of the process and cool by association. Your own experiences and feeling are what set you apart from the rest, not the extreme and talented experiences of the top of the percentile heap. trust yourself as there are things you see and do everyday, chances to be great based on what decisions you make, everyday. Did you treat the other guy as you would have wanted him to treat you or did you allow your fear to overtake you? That's what sets you apart from being common! I think we all can be unique and important without busting our chops to learn something tricky or do something extreme.

Take blogging for example, your opinion is the most important one, because it’s your blog, but when you start to doubt your own importance you start linking to more and more content by other people, some people are so afraid to have an opinion they just post links to other peoples blogs, as if being a middleman makes them part of the process and cool by association.

Your own experiences and feeling are what set you apart from the rest, not the extreme and talented experiences of the top of the percentile heap. trust yourself as there are things you see and do everyday, chances to be great based on what decisions you make, everyday.
Did you treat the other guy as you would have wanted him to treat you or did you allow your fear to overtake you? That’s what sets you apart from being common!

]]> By: Jean http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/comment-page-1/#comment-863 Jean Thu, 10 Apr 2008 17:50:48 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/#comment-863 Karen, Yes, it's really easy to fall into that trap...it seems to be part of our culture. I love the picture of the goat because from now on when someone starts playing ego games I'll think of Haruko and smile. :) Thank you for joining the discussion. Karen,
Yes, it’s really easy to fall into that trap…it seems to be part of our culture. I love the picture of the goat because from now on when someone starts playing ego games I’ll think of Haruko and smile.

:) Thank you for joining the discussion.

]]> By: Square-Peg-Karen http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/comment-page-1/#comment-854 Square-Peg-Karen Wed, 09 Apr 2008 21:40:20 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/#comment-854 Jean, I really needed to hear this! Thanks!! It's an easy trap to fall into. The self-actualization thing you noted (going to go read it at its' source when I'm done here - so double thanks) and the ego thing mentioned in comments were WAY helpful to me... Jean,

I really needed to hear this! Thanks!! It’s an easy trap to fall into. The self-actualization thing you noted (going to go read it at its’ source when I’m done here – so double thanks) and the ego thing mentioned in comments were WAY helpful to me…

]]> By: Jean http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/comment-page-1/#comment-851 Jean Wed, 09 Apr 2008 04:53:42 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/#comment-851 Michael, Amen to that! Michael,
Amen to that!

]]> By: Michael Miles http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/comment-page-1/#comment-849 Michael Miles Tue, 08 Apr 2008 11:03:47 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/#comment-849 True to yourself without comparing yourself to others or making it all into a competition. There's the challenge. http://effortless-wealth.blogspot.com True to yourself without comparing yourself to others or making it all into a competition. There’s the challenge.

http://effortless-wealth.blogspot.com

]]> By: Jean http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/comment-page-1/#comment-847 Jean Tue, 08 Apr 2008 05:12:13 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/#comment-847 Robert, bikehikebabe, Ellen, and Shilpan, It sounds as if we all agree...get our egos out of the way and don't compare ourselves to others. Find what we've been put on earth to do and do it. Thank you. :)   Robert, bikehikebabe, Ellen, and Shilpan,
It sounds as if we all agree…get our egos out of the way and don’t compare ourselves to others. Find what we’ve been put on earth to do and do it.

Thank you. :)  

]]> By: Shilpan | successsoul.com http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/comment-page-1/#comment-846 Shilpan | successsoul.com Tue, 08 Apr 2008 03:24:26 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/#comment-846 Great post. You have uncanny ability to get the point across. My take is to do whatever that brings inner, eternal peace and happiness. It has different forms for different people yet we all have our unique inner voice. Listen to it and try to focus on pleasing it rather than pleasing others. Jean, you're the best ! Shilpan Great post. You have uncanny ability to get the point across. My take is to do whatever that brings inner, eternal peace and happiness. It has different forms for different people yet we all have our unique inner voice. Listen to it and try to focus on pleasing it rather than pleasing others.

Jean, you’re the best !

Shilpan

]]> By: bikehikebabe http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/comment-page-1/#comment-845 bikehikebabe Mon, 07 Apr 2008 23:16:41 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/#comment-845 "To feel inferior or superior, is to be controlled by your ego." Remember that! “To feel inferior or superior, is to be controlled by your ego.” Remember that!

]]> By: Ellen | Positive Communication http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/comment-page-1/#comment-842 Ellen | Positive Communication Mon, 07 Apr 2008 07:31:45 +0000 http://cheerfulmonk.com/2008/04/07/does-common-really-suck/#comment-842 Hi Jean, thanks for this wonderful post again.. I really love how you phrase it: "It’s following your own path without disparaging people who live their lives differently." That indeed is to me the real challenge in life.. Following your own path, and seeing other people for who they really are, instead of judging them, based on (mostly percepted) differences. Seeing each encounter as a possibility to learn ideally for both.. I totally agree with you that 'being different than others' should never be a goal in itself.. With that, you measure yourself, and your life with others. Trying to be 'better' (whatever that may be..) or different.. Where to me, the only goal in life should be to live your own best life.. Hi Jean,

thanks for this wonderful post again.. I really love how you phrase it: “It’s following your own path without disparaging people who live their lives differently.”
That indeed is to me the real challenge in life.. Following your own path, and seeing other people for who they really are, instead of judging them, based on (mostly percepted) differences. Seeing each encounter as a possibility to learn ideally for both..

I totally agree with you that ‘being different than others’ should never be a goal in itself.. With that, you measure yourself, and your life with others. Trying to be ‘better’ (whatever that may be..) or different.. Where to me, the only goal in life should be to live your own best life..

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