Comments on: Making Hay While the Sun Shines

By: Diane/lovewhoyouare

Diane/lovewhoyouare — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 05:00:20 +0000

Jean,

I think death is the hardest of all…. if you live from your heart of hearts. It makes you stop. And it makes the essence of life that much more sweeter. Don’t mind the tears embrace them.

By: Jean

Jean — Thu, 09 Oct 2008 04:25:34 +0000

Diane,
Thank you so much for coming by. I would love to know more about your experience in dealing with death, helping others deal with death. That is the subject of my next post at Transforming Stress.

It sounds as if you’re doing great things with your volunteering.

By: Diane/lovewhoyouare

Diane/lovewhoyouare — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 18:59:20 +0000

Gosh, You are inspiration!

As I have learned so many lessons from friends…hmm
In days I have the experience of what a value a lifelong friend is understanding and time spent in earnestly helping deal with death. How each moment of communicating and lifting up a friend can be.

In volunteering for a cause for bettering children’s learning by enhancing programs through art. I have learned so much about being in a enviroment with like minded friends. As with working through different styles and creative geniuses to put art shows together. It gave me a deeper appreciation for all types of fields and people. And a deeper respect for the way it all comes together. It expanded my intelligence and I love your graph on stress Its so insightful!

Recently I have noticed that question, What do I need answering back…rest….so as I rested …. I read and studied and went to classes during this attending to rest.

By: Jean

Jean — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 04:31:47 +0000

Mother Earth,
I’m rooting for you! Please let us know how it goes. It sounds as if you’re trying to do the things you really care about. Good for you.

Monique,
Yes, I find that graph to be incredibly helpful. It means I don’t try to run and hide from tension. If it’s too high I just try to dial it down a bit, either by changing my physiology or cutting down on what I’m doing. It usually means a small adjustment. Before the graph it used to be a much bigger deal.

By: Monique Attinger

Monique Attinger — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 20:12:32 +0000

Your graphic is perfect — and a “graphic” reminder of how life works… and how “staying in the zone” keeps you happy and healthy, while slipping out to the edges gets you frayed.

Monique Attingers last blog post..What I Learned From My Friends About Allergies

By: Mother Earth

Mother Earth — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 14:11:01 +0000

I have tucked work in for a long time and found a way to make a modest income, i can’t say i am bored, but stress is pretty raging, i am intrigued by what you say about feeling scared, the truth is if it’s a path that has one stretching oneself then i feel it in my gut, and that gets uncomfortable

somehow the in the gut stuff alerts me and says keep going

the next place for me is undefined and in my gut

interestingly the friends I am attracting into my circle are up to stuff friends

they remind me… also to strive on

By: Middle Zone Musings » All Entries - What I Learned From My Friends

Middle Zone Musings » All Entries - What I Learned From My Friends — Mon, 15 Sep 2008 11:01:38 +0000

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By: Jean

Jean — Thu, 11 Sep 2008 03:36:14 +0000

rummuser,
My next post at Transforming Stress will be “What I Learned From Being Dumped By My Best Friend”. It happened in 8th grade. I went up to my best friend before school one day, happy to see her, and she made it clear she wanted to have nothing to do with me. So when that happens it’s not because of lack of face-to-face contact. This happened overnight. At the time I assumed it was because there was something wrong with me, but it turns out it was something going on inside her. It was a great lesson, albeit a painful one at the time. It is sad when that happens. Thank you for sharing.

By: rummuser

rummuser — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 14:23:10 +0000

Let me share a recent story here. I have a friend who has been in depression ever since he retired a few years ago. His family knowing that our friendship goes back to our childhood persuaded him to visit with me and spend some time to see if he will snap out of it. The background is that we had not been in a face to face situation for over 28 years as he lives in a different country. Firstly, both of us have changed physically quite dramatically in the 28 years. Secondly, I have gone off in a different tangent in my quest for happiness than he expected me to have. The re-union was a disaster for him as he just could not accept my cheerfulness and calm. He resented it. The visit did not last longer than just three days!

What did I learn from this friend of such long standing? Friendship sometimes can play tricks if frequent and close contact is not maintained. Had my taking the different path been known to him in greater detail, perhaps he would have either joined me or just forgotten all about me. That we kept in touch through letters and occasional phone calls was not enough to keep the relationship going. May be his depression had something to do with it. I do not know. I am saddened that it turned out the way it did.

By: Jean

Jean — Wed, 10 Sep 2008 02:37:05 +0000

bikehikebabe,
Precisely!

Robert,
I didn’t like differential equations when I was in college either, and part of me was saying, “Oh, Lord, what have I gotten myself into!” But my compulsion to find elegant solutions when they exist was stronger than my fear or my aversion.

Lance,
In high school my best friend and I didn’t know what we would do in life, but we were committed to avoiding stagnation. That’s not a well-formed goal because it’s expressed in the negative, but it works nonetheless.

I enjoyed your post about your soccer team. One of my little adventures now is heading soccer balls in one of the Wii Fit balance games. There’s quite a contrast between my athletic abilities and the abilities of your 9-year-olds. But, hey, we all do what we can.