Comments on: I Can’t Believe I Did That Again!

By: Jean

Jean — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 18:38:32 +0000

rummuser,
Yes, I found the banter. And very charming it was.

By: rummuser

rummuser — Sat, 04 Apr 2009 15:50:37 +0000

Jean, see my latest post as my response to your query. Is there some banter there this time? rummusers last blog post..Colour Bias.

By: Jean

Jean — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 22:39:41 +0000

Conrad,
Nope, not at all. I’m an observer and listener, not a manipulator. I have taught some classes/led some groups on the subject, but it was just ideas to be tried, if anyone wanted to use them. Well… in fact there was always one person who integrated the ideas into her life…me.

By: Conrad

Conrad — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 21:38:05 +0000

Oh, it is fascinating indeed – although physics hangs right in there!

I was just worried you were studying how to modify OUR behavior! LOL

By: Jean

Jean — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 21:00:44 +0000

Conrad,
When I was sixteen I cured myself of a dental phobia using self-hypnosis. It was heady stuff. I was never stuck after that…if my life wasn’t going well it might take me a while to figure out what to do but here was never any doubt that I was empowered to do it. And it was intellectually stimulating. How does the/my mind work? How much can we/I influence it? Can you believe it was even more interesting than physics? Hard to imagine, right?

By: Conrad

Conrad — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 18:40:29 +0000

Jean,
When you say, “I’ve been fascinated by behavior modification since I was sixteen years old…” what do you mean by that fascination?

Conrads last blog post..CNN Live Chat Stream Available

By: Jean

Jean — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 20:14:06 +0000

Conrad,
Sure, and I think some jokes can get in the way of conversation, especially when a lot of people are involved and when there are no nonverbal clues. I think suzen’s comment above was hilarious and added to the conversation. I ignored the implied joke in rummuser’s comment because he seemed to be saying he wasn’t interested in the topic and was changing the subject. I wanted to encourage other people to respond to the main topic. I’ve been fascinated by behavior modification since I was sixteen years old and want to hear about other people’s experiences and hopefully share the joy.

By: Conrad

Conrad — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 17:28:55 +0000

Jean,

I think there is a skilled fine line that can simultaneously pull forward real meaning and substance without threat. Don’t you view conversation as a dance of developing meaning?

By: Jean

Jean — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 17:19:33 +0000

rummuser,
Ah, but have you noticed how little you banter on your own site? Are we to interpret your posts as jokes too?

In fact, I’m not trying for a bantering tone here. Ideally I would like people to look at their lives more deeply and share their unique perspective with others. That often means feeling vulnerable. Teasing and bantering can shut people down in self-protection.

My husband and I laugh and joke a lot. Occasionally it takes the form of bantering, but we know one another well enough that it’s safe. Most of our laughter is about the craziness of the world.

By: rummuser

rummuser — Wed, 01 Apr 2009 06:20:17 +0000

Jean, bless you. You took me seriously. You must be the only one on this planet who still does. Despite all that has been said, I can say one thing for certain. I am certainly one of those that Conrad is comfortable with. For the moment, I shall refrain from naming a couple of others too. rummusers last blog post..A Tribute To Two Great Doctors.