I mostly try to be an understanding person and not call other people names. But I have to admit, some people push my limits. Among them are people who
(1) Complain bitterly about their lives,
(2) Don’t make any effort to make things better, and
(3) Dismiss the hard work and accomplishments of people who have improved their lives — brushing them off by saying, “Oh, but they were lucky. They had it easy. Their problems couldn’t have been nearly as serious as mine.”
It’s when I hear that argument I think
Yep, success is just a matter of luck. Ask any loser.
Do you think I’m being too harsh?
September 9, 2014
No. Not as long as you voice your reaction to them.
But that would only hurt their feelings. It wouldn’t change how they feel about life. Start with a soft approach if you want to help them. If not just avoid them.
(Jean thought me to think like this. Now I have to DO like this.)
It depends. If they were asking for special treatment because of their problems and I hadn’t initiated the interaction, I would probably say something. But if I had initiated the interaction because they seemed to be struggling, and they didn’t seem to be getting helped by my listening, I might gently move on. If they weren’t asking for my opinion I wouldn’t force it on them. Who’s to say I know better than they do.
When I first read the quote, I laughed, but in fact I don’t feel comfortable calling people names. I agree with bikehikebabe, I don’t like to hurt people’s feelings.
I think success depends on both – hard work and luck. Some people work incredibly hard but never achieve what they’re seeking because luck is needed as well. A business will only succeed for example if it taps into a latent market or becomes fashionable in some way, things that can’t always be predicted.
Yes. To start a business supply something that is needed/lacking. Then do some market research to see if people will buy it.
I agree. There are no guarantees in life, even if one works hard. Even Benjamin Franklin — the quintessential self-made man —-didn’t achieve success just because of hard work. He had some wealthy patrons who gave him a boost.
Even with good, honest hard work, success can still so often be a case of, “right place at the right time”.
Although, I like to hope that with the addition of persistence and perseverance to hard work, one can end up at that right place. It’s a matter of time.
At least, I wish for that every market I attend.
And, gauging peoples’ reactions/opinions to see how to improve on my work is an important part of some measure of “success” I guess…
Good luck! We’re rooting for you. Please let us know how it goes.
Of course, it’s all about luck. Success is never the result of good decisions and hard work.
#sarcasm
I shared an office with a guy for several years who was always blaming others for his misfortunes. He seldom took a look around to see how fortunate he really was.
It would be hard to have to listen to that for so long. 🙁
It was. There were times I had to get up and go work some place else in the building for a while.
Yes, I do.
Thanks.