An email correspondent recently reminded me of Games People Play and asked if I wanted to play Ain’t It Awful with him. I declined, but it started a good conversation.
Ain’t It Awful, sometimes known as Moan and Groan, lets people bond with one another by sharing their misery and frustration. Here’s one person’s view:
It has been described it this way: “People playing this game get to feel Right and Righteous, a step above those being ‘awfulized’.” “There is the drama and attention that comes to the one who begins the game or who can ‘one-up’ the previous player.”
In short, it is a kind of drug that makes us feel better in the moment but does nothing to make our lives better in the long term.
—Playing “Ain’t It Awful”
I’m afraid I agree with Virginia Satir,
Life is not what it’s supposed to be. It’s what it is. The way you cope with it is what makes the difference.
I do my best not to complain and blame other people when I don’t like what is going on. Instead I try to focus on my own response. I can’t always do it, but the results are powerful when I can.