Yesterday’s Wall Street Journal had an article entitled ‘Self Talk’: When Talking to Yourself, the Way You Do It Makes a Difference. Apparently the main thing is to be supportive rather than critical, and to use the pronoun “you” instead of “I”. Well, yeah, I’ve been doing that for years. My self-talk is always supportive, like a good friend who is always there.
I think they’re referring to talking to yourself out loud, but I assume inner dialog counts too. What about you? Do you talk to yourself much? If so, what form does it take?
May 7, 2014
Oh yes. Often. It is usually something like this: “Mr. Rajgopaul you are an idiot of the first order. Now do it again and do it right this time.” It is always Mr. Rajgopaul, never Ramana. The latter will be too flippant.
That wouldn’t work for me. I do better with positive reinforcement.
Somewhat similar to Ramana’s take on the subject, when talking to myself the words that most often come to mind are dumb ass, idiot and ass hole. I have never in my life spewed out words at someone else like I do at myself. Oh, I take that back. I forgot about when I am on the road dealing with fellow drivers! 😕
I don’t normally talk to myself when things are on the upside. Sometimes when life is really good I will from time to time refer to myself as “Precious” but that’s about it! 😀
LOLOL.
I’m much too sensitive to treat myself that way. I’m quite liberal with “Yay, Jean!” and “Good job!” That works better.
You guys are so funny. 😀
I mumble to myself about what I’m doing as things don’t come automatically like before. Before while working, my mind was a million miles away.
I go over (& over) my stupid mistake so I don’t ever do it again. Then I think how I can redeem myself by doing something good.
I blame other people. I broke the glass; you set it in the wrong place etc. That works.
😀 I’ve known people like that. It was always someone else’s fault, no matter how far-fetched the explanation.
Can’t say as I talk to myself at all, out loud or otherwise. I do a lot of thinking about various things, how to do something, what to write, where to go, when to go. If I mess something up, I may cuss and stew over it, but never talk to self recriminations.
I’m trying to imagine not talking to myself. Can’t be done! 🙂
interesting!
it dawns on me that whenever i say anything to myself… inside or outloud…
i always use my LAST name! sort of like i’m in the military.
i guess i have an inner drill instructor.
i have read that affirmations are a very powerful thing. i don’t tend to use them though. only every now and then. i think for them to work you have to be consistent.
That’s interesting! I hope you say positive things most of the time.
A little.
I’m sure I’ve said this before, but whole life has been one of living with a whole gang of imaginary people who have helped me in all kinds of ways…
Sometimes this dialogue will evolve from something that happened real time…it keeps me sane 🙂
Since, I had to start using public facilities in the main for on-line stuff, I have found it very difficult not to talk to the “screen” or other because everyone else is party to your comments…