In a recent post, Wisewebwoman wrote,
Which brings me to today. When I’m around the youngsters, and much as I want to, I avoid health broadcasts, my mobility limitations, the aches and pains of an elder, the medication competition. Is there anything more boring in life?
That reminds me of Andy’s philosophy, “Never talk about your ailments, when I was young that was so boring!”
I disagree with him. I say, never talk only of your ailments, they are a part of life. Don’t complain about them, become obsessed, but adversity is a part of life and talking about how we handle it is a profound subject.
Anyway, that’s the beauty of blogging, you don’t have to worry about boring people. Oh, I know, some bloggers occasionally disparage others as “boring”, but if they don’t like the blogs, then don’t read them. The posts may resonate with someone else and make a difference in their life.
What inspired this post? Ronnie Bennet’s Making Dying a Part of Living. Among other things she writes,
It is the dying, rather than death itself, I am concerned with, and I become more convinced every day now, as I live with this death sentence, that it is a gift.
A gift of time that allows me to say the things I always ought to have done but too often have not. Of time to remember. Time to wonder at the great unknown. And time to talk. Oh god, yes. To talk and and talk and talk with those who will do so with me, about everything under the sun.
We are doing that here in these pages and your comments, thoughts and stories are enriching my final days.
Even though I have met only a few of you in person, we’ve been friends of a certain kind for a long time. Imagine how you would feel if, when the time comes, someone posted a note saying I died yesterday of cancer, and you had known nothing about it until then.
Would you feel betrayed? I think I would. Would you wonder why the disease had been kept a secret? I would. And I think I would feel cheated to be able to leave only a note of condolence rather than having had this wonderful conversation we are carrying on now.
Dying is as much a part of living as birth. We should treat it with as much significance and honor it during every last day we have.
Good for you, Ronnie!
November 14, 2018