I know the mechanics of an argument, and I’ve learned that everything is about feeling. We have 9x more information going from body to brain, than brain to body. Logic and language were the last frontiers of human evolution, and they will never win over emotion. This is good to keep in mind during an argument when you’re trying to speak logic to feeling; it doesn’t work. Feeling is pre-verbal and needs validation. To resolve an argument, begin by saying “I can see why you…” which is a way to make the conversation about feeling rather than facts.
—100 things I know, Mari Andrew
Some of us already knew that trying to argue using logic is futile, but this is the best explanation of why that I’ve ever read.
September 10, 2023
maybe not just an argument but also when you want to make a point/suggestion or other like “what if…”
and is the argument that will evolve into a heated remark/s or more based on a kind of academic speak of “Bloggs argues that xyz is a far superior product than abc” adding “and are you agreeable with that statement”
I assume they’re talking about trying to change someone’s mind/attitude.
That makes a lot of sense. I can remember arguments that Wade and I had in the past. He would almost always say “it’s all about you isn’t it?” My reply was always if I’m talking about how I feel then yes, it is always about me.
Good for you!
this is really good, and it would work on anyone but BOB! never thought about it this way. I am a highly emotional person, thanks
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Good point. Thanks for sharing.
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So, that’s why my father never actually convinced me he was right?
Most likely. 🙂
Yes, it’s the best I have read as well, with a great explanation.
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“Feeling is pre-verbal and needs validation.” I love that!
… Now, if I can only remember it next time I become ‘het up.’
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