Recently I told our friend rummuser I would like to know more about him. I asked if he could send some pictures or else tell us about his daily life.
This was his response:
My everyday life is incredibly dull. It is mostly, extending care for my father and son, solving four to five cross word puzzles, reading four newspapers, lots of books, evening outing to the local joggers’ park and meeting up with my friends there, blogging in the evenings and sometimes in the mornings too, as I am just now doing as I came to send an email and got involved in incoming ones too. In between, I get phone calls from my principals and customers of the small agency that I run by phone from home.
Except for the evening outing and phone calls that I receive from my family and friends, I tend to prefer just being alone with myself and my reading material. I listen to satellite radio simultaneously and depending on my mood listen to Indian classical music, Country and Western, Blues and some modern jazz. I often listen to old Indian film songs as also old English songs.
I have simplified my life to the extent that I hardly need to leave our home and since my friends and family know that, I get a lot of visitors. My life line is my computer and telephone and with very little wants in my life, it is quite a nice and comfortable life that I have made for myself.
Life is however evolving, and I have just accepted two invitations for outings. One today for lunch with an alumnus to investigate prospects of my doing some backroom work for local politics, and the other for high tea tomorrow with some dear friends who are convinced that I need some feminine company now that I am back to being single! I did not have the heart to say no to either and shall do both knowing fully well, that I will simply return to my original way of living.
I shall send you some photographs, and even post some on my blog. I just need some time to get myself organized a bit more.
Trust that this gives you some insight into my very exciting life! Thanks for wanting to know.
The next day he added,
In my earlier mail to you, I had omitted two vital pieces of information. I meditate every morning for about an hour and also perform Yogasanas for about 45 minutes every morning.
These two activities, I am convinced are responsible for keeping me sane and reasonably fit to live my ‘incredibly dull daily life’!
Thank you, rummuser…I love hearing how people spend their time. But I’m sorry 😉 , you haven’t convinced me. That doesn’t sound dull to me…it sounds rich and fulfilling. What does everyone else think?
What are your daily lives like? How would you describe them?
Modesty becomes you. You call it a dull life but describe a rich & fulfilling life.
I don’t understand how you get all that done in a day. Reading books & 4 newspapers, puzzles, meditation & yoga (1 hour 45 minutes total), your post & other blogging, drop-in friends & family, phone calls, political work, your agency, outings.
I got tired just reading it all.
My life would be exceedingly dull too, except that I get to read Rummuser’s blog.
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bikehikebabe and Looney,
Right on!
Dull is a matter of perspective. I don’t think Ramana’s life sounds dull. It’s different from mine and not the kind of things I would like for myself, but certainly not boring.
I can get bored just thinking about my normal day.
(Oops, I meant, tired, not bored. It’s 12:40 AM and thinking about anything is making me tired.)
Gym, working on projects around the house and yard, reading, internet.
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I have come to accept the rewards of a simple life. After living in a the hustle and bustle of a busy city and spending most of my career in the boardroom, I appreciate the simplicity of my new surroundings. Living as an ex-pat in the countryside allows me to really enjoy my day. I finally have time to slow down and enjoy the basic joys of life. Helping to build our house has also given me a new appreciation for what it takes to create a home.
Rummuser’s day doesn’t sound dull to me, it sounds like a wonderfully balanced lifestyle!
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Some ‘days’ of my life are very slow and very dull….but then again that is because I need those ‘days’ to balance the other often jam packed to gunnells ‘day’
right now I’m in slow day-mode as my lectures/tutorials are finished for this semester…I don’t even have to get up to my alarm, dash into clothes, find food, bus tickets, check clock to see which bus I’m actually going to get on!
Today….the furthest I went from the upstairs was down to the basement 3 x to deal with a load of washing. (why 3x I got out of kilter with the timer, and made an extra trip)…..I went down to the letterbox on the street twice (no mail either time)
Here in NZ your mail is delivered to a letterbox at the end of your driveway i.e. street front by someone who rides a red bicycle x 6 days a week, rain hail or sunshine.
I’ve decided I need to go into Uni tomorrow otherwise I will forget how to catch the bus….but I also need to do some studying there (other books in locker)
According to the dictionary DULL can mean:
Mentally slow, slow in perception or sensibility, lacking zest or vivacity. Slow in action, lacking in force, intensity, or sharpness, brilliance or lustre, tedious and uninteresting.
Somehow I would not think of any of these in relation to Ramana or his way of living.
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To me, dull is a dumb word. Dead is dull – that’s when I’d admit I’m dull. Sounds like his banquet table may be a bit solitary from a social aspect – mine is too, by choice! But dull? No way dull!
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Sounds wonderful. I’m glad your meeting your friends. Have you always wanted to stay in or at home?
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Ramana,
DULL? Political Party? Hmmmm…
Your blog writing seems alive to me!
Great sense of humor….not dull!
Mentoring the youth, sharing your wisdom!
I think you mean quiet and peaceful and slow because you do not have to and choose to keep abreast of the news and more!
Namaste,
Ramana
Again, thank you, everyone, for responding.
What about you, rummuser? What is your reaction to the comments?
Cathy,
For some reason my spam filter held up your comment…I just saw it now. Thank you for sharing the details of your life. 🙂
I think you’re wise for balancing the hectic days with periods of quiet and recuperation.
Jean, thank you for putting this up for discussion and for all those who have commented, I am truly touched.
One’s life style is a matter of perception for others. Many people here, including those lovely friends who organized the high tea for me, believe that I am veering towards the life of a recluse and that is why I used the word dull to describe my life. I personally do not think that it is dull. I believe that after all the years of my toil, I deserve to be just laid back and relaxed and doing things that I like doing instead of doing things that need to be done. Not that I have nothing in my life that needs doing, but those are minor matters not requiring too much effort or thought.
Right now however, I do go through periods of ‘whymeitis’, and am learning to handle that as well.
To answer some questions.
I find the time to do all that because my day starts at 0445 and I am fast asleep, mostly by about 2230. I also have a 45 minute siesta in the afternoons. The rest of the time, I am doing all the things that I have written about. I find that this much of sleep is enough for me!
No, I have not always been a stay at home type. When I took on the responsibility of giving care to my wife nine years ago, I changed my life style to spend the maximum time with her and that is when I got used to the idea of spending time at home. Yes, now I PREFER to stay at home, and where I live, it is possible to, without going out too much. Most shops take orders on phone and deliver at home. I shop for my books on line and so that too does not require my going out of the house. Fresh vegetables and fruit come to our doorsteps every day too!
I do however go out when necessary, like yesterday when I had to visit a friend in hospital recovering from surgery. On the way back, I was with some other friends and we stopped at a nice little café for some snacks and coffee and had a little unusual activity for a change.
So, flexibility is also part of my lifestyle and the way things are now, I would not like to change it to anything else.
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Well, I’m an introvert. It sounds a delightful life to me.
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rummuser,
Yes, I figured you love your life. It’s definitely worth sharing with others. Thanks!
Evan,
Our society tends to view introverts as lonely and neurotic. This post presents a different point of view.
Evan, Jean, why is considered to be bad to be introvert? I believe that human beings will be much better off personally, if they stop being judgmental about such matters. For me, some one who is an introvert is introvert. Period. He is no better or worse than an extrovert. The latter is not better or worse either. Each is simply different from each other, in my book. That is why, I try and cheerfully accept the interventions in my life by well meaning but judgmental people without being judgmental in turn. I let them have their way, and revert to being just the way I like to be – comfortable. To go a step further, so what if one is neurotic? All psychiatrists say that all of us are neurotic to some degree!
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My day is not as cheerful or enriching as Ramanna sirs or some of the other people who have left comments here, I admit. It starts at around 8 in the morning. During holidays, I usually leave for my office by 9. I put in about 8 to 9 hours a day during which time I don’t know how time passes. Usually one or two small quick meals followed by frequent dosages of coffee. Back home for dinner by around 9:30.p.m. or 10 and a round of internet browsing before I hit the sack. On weekends its usually meeting the theatre group I am part of for rehearsals. That pretty much sums up my life during holidays. During the non holidays, law school till afternoon and the rest remains as it is.
Its great to find your blog and thank you for your visit. It meant a lot to me!
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Hi rummuser, I definitely do not think it is bad to be an introvert. I sometimes get fed up with our culture’s bias to extraversion – and say that life would be much improved if there were more introverts about (it would be quieter for a start).
As to being neurotic. This is just a judgement as you say. The concern really is are people feeling joy and acting compassionately in my view.
Apologies for any misunderstanding.
rummuser,
Neither Evan nor I think it’s bad to be an introvert, and I agree with Evan, sometimes the bias against them/us is a bit much. Especially when a gunman starts mowing people down. Invariably the reporting points out the fellow was a “loner”. The implication is what would you expect from a social misfit, someone who spends most of his time alone.
I remember reading an article in the Wall Street Journal years ago. A social worker was working with a group of boys, and one of them stood away from the rest and was clearly not a part of the group. The social worker worried about him not fitting in, but the reporter investigated further. It turns out the rest of the boys were part of a gang and the “loner” didn’t want to join. He didn’t have social problems, he just had sense enough not to want to be forced into gang activity.
Why the prejudice and social pressure? Most people are uncomfortable with people who are different from themselves. And there are fewer introverts than extroverts. I think I read somewhere the ratio is 3 to 1, but don’t quote me on that.
The reason I love the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator is it looks at people’s preferences such as introversion/extroversion and sees the advantages to them all. It respects differences.
Ashok,
You’re in a different stage of life than many of us. You’re just starting your career, and that means your life is more focused on your school and work. Hopefully you find part of that satisfying?
I’m glad I found your blog. (Thanks, rummuser!) I’ve been thinking of your last post about marriage. My husband was 29 when we married…I was 24. He had finished his Ph.D. first, and he focused on building a career for many years. So I agree with you…don’t rush into marriage. It helps when both parties are somewhat older and know themselves and something of life.
How old were you when you married, rummuser? And others?
I’ve put your blog in my Live Bookmarks, Ashok, and plan to visit often.
(… and others.)
I was 20 and Karen was 19. My family was in Texas; her family had recently moved to Arkansas. We met in Wisconsin and planned to be married in Illinois.
One problem. For under 21, Illinois required written permission — for guys! Karen didn’t need written permission — I did, even though I was on my own and in the Navy.
So the courthouse ceremony was delayed until we received the proper written permission from my mom.
And speaking of rushing into marriage, we knew each other 2 weeks when we decided to get married and our planned wedding date was 5 weeks after that — and that’s the date we celebrate, since that’s what’s engraved on our rings, and that’s the date we exchanged vows privately. That other date was just in front of a minister in the courthouse anyhow.
Friends said it wouldn’t last and tried to talk us out of it — but, with the certainty of youth, we knew better.
That date we celebrate is next week and it will be our 37th.
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Mike,
What a great story! Thanks. It just goes to show there are no hard and fast rules. Your friends were right in trying to talk you out of it, and you were right for not listening. 😉
Jean – I love the social discourse here! All the “voices” – love your blog!
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More discourse- My husband & I were each 23 1/2 when married. I finished college + 1 year & went with him to finish grad. school.
Don’t think of this as dull because I love what I do. I clean house, pick-up & put away, which includes cleaning out one room to put in another, because I’m a pack-rat, take a hike, get on my computer a couple times a day. In the evening I watch TV (high definition) & do weights & stretches.
*I thought everyone had high definition TV but my neighbors told me they have their 1950 console TV with converter box & VCR. They’re in their 80’s & don’t change.
I was all of 25!
I am single again!! After forty plus years of being married.
This morning an old colleague of mine, wanting to cheer me up said that he envied me my ‘freedom’.
I am in the process of writing a blog post about my ‘freedom’.
Ashok has a long way to go before he will marry, if he follows our Indian ways. He has to “settle down” first with a regular income, some bank balance and some ‘respect’. I intend asking him if he would like me to find a suitable match for him! If he is reading this, he might like to answer here itself.
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suzen,
Thanks!
bikehikebabe,
And I thought we were old-fashioned keeping our 1984 analog TV. I wouldn’t mind having a new one, but the old one has been reliable for all these years and I figure we owe it some loyalty. 😉
rummuser,
In general I agree with the Indian philosophy, but after reading Mike’s comment I have to add, “But what do I know?” 😉
I’m looking forward to your post about your new “freedom”.
Everyone,
More questions:
(1) How did you meet your spouse? How did you decide to marry her/him?
(2) What did your parents and in-laws think of the match?
My parents thought my husband was just fine. His parents were not nearly as pleased. It may have been because they valued maturity, and I, of course, resolved at an early age to never grow up. 😉
I am no longer married…….but in fact now we are the best of friends! (long story on that aspect)
I met mine in a boarding house in Subiaco, Perth, W Australia….we were part of a group who played I think Monopoly or something similar most nights of the week (I was in my early 20s)
Neither parents were in Aussie……mine in NZ, his in the UK. so no ‘guidance’ on matters of the heart.
All mine was upset about was that their 3rd daughter was going to marry yet another Pom/Englishman. His father didn’t care, he never liked his son anyway (hence the reason he immigrated to Aussie), his Mother/pass.
We came to my homeland a few years later and we are still both here……even though we only planned to stay a year 🙂
He never met my parents as my Dad died when I was in Aussie and my Mother died before we arrived …..she was quite ill.
I met his parents here in NZ…..his father once (realised why the dislike) and his mother twice. Both are now dead. We both met one another siblings except for one of mine who was residing in UK/France.
sorry this is tangled must away to Uni and do some work 🙂
(1) How did you meet your spouse? How did you decide to marry her/him?
(2) What did your parents and in-laws think of the match?
Karen was a USO volunteer in Milwaukee. I was an sailor stationed at Great Lakes Naval Training Center in Illinois for school. On my first visit to the Milwaukee USO, they asked for volunteers to help decorate for a dance they were having that night at the YWCA. I decided, “Sure. Why not.”
Soon after I got there, a girl up in the balcony hollered down and asked if she could bum a cigarette. I said, “sure” and tossed the pack up to her. She missed and the cigarettes went flying all over the floor. After I picked them up, I told her I would bring them up to her. Then after she took one, I lit it for her.
I think it’s the only cigarette she ever tried to smoke.
For the rest of the decorating, we worked together and agreed to meet at the dance. It wasn’t really a date, but we did spend all of the dance together. Afterward, we went to a couple of nightclubs. Although we were both under 21, at that time it was legal to serve drinks to anyone over 18.
At the end of the evening, I took her home in a taxi and then went back to the motel.
I don’t think anyone had ever called a taxi to take her home before. She generally either walked or took the bus home from the clubs, even late at night. Different times back then.
We spent all of the next day together, walking around and going to a couple of museums, until it was time for my bus back to the base. We weren’t going to be able to meet in Milwaukee the next week as she was catching a bus to Arkansas for one of her older sister’s wedding.
She had a layover in Chicago when switching buses and she sure was surprised to see me waiting there when she got off the bus.
While in Arkansas she told her parents that she thought she had met someone who could be “the one” for her.
On her way back to Milwaukee, I surprised her again when she got off the bus in Chicago, though I think she was kind of hoping I’d be there.
The next weekend we got to talking about things and I told her that I would be transferred in July to another school, probably in California.
She told me that she could follow me out there if I wanted her to.
I told her, that, no, that wouldn’t work, that if she was going out there with me, we’d have to be married.
And that was when we decided…, two weeks after we met.
My in-laws have always accepted me as part of the family. My mom has always liked Karen. My mom knew when she got the first letter from me talking about Karen that we would probably be getting married. My grandmother didn’t care for her much, though. Karen didn’t take too kindly to her suggestions about taking care of our daughter. Of course, as the third oldest of twelve, Karen had more than a little bit of experience taking care of kids.
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My mother picked him out. His mother was delighted when he asked me to marry him. She always remembered the date & the place (3rd floor of their house).
Our parents were friends. (His father died when he was 7. His mother died at 96 but had never remarried.)
I decided to marry him because he was tall, handsome, kind, getting a doctorate in physics at Yale. Smart. Took 3 yrs. of college Spanish in 2nd,3rd,4th grades because his mother’s best friend was teaching it in the community college. etc. etc. Need I say more. I’d have been crazy not to marry him. Best thing that ever happened to me. My mother made a wise choice.
I met my first wife through a religious group we were involved with – we fell passionately in love: I proposed after 8 days.
My second wife I met through a mutual interest in a type of psychotherapy – gestalt. Not so much of the in but lots of love.
I was 34 when I married the first time so I didn’t really consult my parents.
Cathy,
I’m glad you’re still good friends even if the marriage didn’t last forever. Thank you so much for taking the time to write. I would love to hear more details if you ever have the time.
Mike,
What a romantic story! I can see how you swept her off her feet. Good for both of you!
bikehikebabe,
Even though you didn’t have an “arranged” marriage, it sounds as if your mother was good at picking husbands. I agree, Tom is a gem.
Evan,
Do you feel the first marriage was a mistake? How do you feel about romantic love vs common interests plus less romantic love? As Mike shows, there is no one way of starting a lifetime marriage. And presumably Cathy would say a marriage doesn’t have to last a lifetime to be a success?
I think it’s safe to say my husband’s and my marriage will last until death doth us part. It’s scary to think about, but that reality sure keeps us from getting upset about little things. I focus on appreciating him while we’re both still here.
The situation that caused the split….in hindsight…..should never have happened, but it did.
I’m not sure…that it could have been otherwise because although we are friends, I have to work hard at making sure the past-life he ‘gave me’ doesn’t rear up its ugly head. The hardest thing is he doesn’t ‘know why I went’…and I don’t have the heart to tell him, because he wouldn’t understand.
Our past remains just that……if now as friends, that past comes up the other says “oops, not today”
So much has happened since the early 90s…for both of us, that it’s better to leave the past, firmly in the past and work on our friendship as friends.
We talk on the phone at least once a week…sometimes we see one another every week. We have coffee, lunch out…go and see festivals, freebie concerts and so on.
To begin with, what a lively discussion. At my age, I seldom give the topic of romance or marriage much thought given time is of abundance. But reading about the marriage stories of many people here makes the experience worth the wait.
First of all, let me thank Ramanna sir for his very generous offer to find me a match. Not many people make the same offer because they seldom think of me as a 20 year old as opposed to the infant I once was when they first saw me. I shall definitely take him up on that offer one fine day. At the moment, though I would like to try my hand at sweeping a woman off her feet myself. I rather fancy my chances too, although some might call it living in denial. If I give it half the sincerity I give to my clients and my work, then I think there should be some decent measure of success. If not Ramanna sir is always there to find me a match, eh?
But in any event, I describe myself as a person who values his solitude and prefer to keep my social interactions to a limited extent meeting friends every once in a while for a few round of drinks and talking about the old days back in high school. Balancing law school, the law firms, the clients and theatre itself is proving to be impossible. Perhaps once I am at a comfortable position career wise, I could think about it. A lot of things about life, about myself and about what I want from life remains a mystery (friends refer to this as an early midlife crisis). Once some of these mysteries are answered, I could consider dating and then eventually marriage.
But some of the material I found here, makes me think about this topic even more. I think another blog post maybe on its way soon.
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Hi Jean, after I left my wife and thought about trade-offs I realised there was no comparison Evan walking around. Was it a mistake? Can’t say. I was certainly deluded to some extent. I also had the opportunity to learn to give with no expectation of return and to learn humility (my energy will get exhausted if I just give – goodbye to any SuperEvan fantasies that I still cherished). These opportunities are a great privelege (even if not terribly enjoyable).
Romantic love (OK lust) is great, very enjoyable, wouldn’t have missed it for the world. Use this energy to good purpose, build solid habits for when it passes (as it surely will) is my advice.
A successful marriage I think needs the ability to communicate – I think this is more important than common interests. If the partners are willing to listen then common interests aren’t so important I don’t think. My first wife taking up aromatherapy to keep me company in alternative health (acupuncture) was a problem rather than a positive (it was the doing it for me that was the problem).
I guess there’s lots more I could say. Let me know if you’d like to know more about anything and I’ll respond.
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Jean, you have driven me back down memory lane to this post
http://rummuser.com/?p=856
Nothing since then has changed in the story except that I am now sans that wonderful woman who gave forty of her years to me. If I could get her back, I will marry her all over again.
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Thanks a lot Mr.Ramana for giving me the link to this post. It’s been very nice reading the post, and all the comments here. People’s lives are different, and I, too, am amazed at how you get all of this done. I’m on vacations, and it’d be a typical day spent reading and watching tv, I can’t seem to get anything else done. But I am living! 🙂
I have to thank Ashok for linking me on his blog, I’m really glad I’ve been introduced to this.
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Cathy,
I’m glad you can keep that connection. I’m wondering, though, if there’s any way you can eventually talk about what happened in a nonthreatening way. I know that’s a tricky business and may be more risky than it’s worth. But sometimes it can deepen a relationship.
I am most decidedly NOT giving advice! I would probably do exactly as you’re doing and wonder if I should take the risk. Some books I’ve read advocate it, and I can’t decide if they’re right or not. 😉
Ashok,
I think you’re wise to wait. My husband didn’t start dating until he was 26 and look at the gem he wound up with. 😉
When you are ready to date, and to sweep a gal off her feet, you might use Mike as your role model. He’s clearly an expert.
Evan,
Thank you! I was especially interested in your comment that your first wife taking up aromatherapy was a problem because she was doing it for you, not because she was interested in it for its own sake. So would you say the important thing is for each party to have their own interests, that it’s fine if they have those interests in common, but it isn’t necessary? The important thing is that they’re fully functioning individuals, not too dependent on the other? That has been my experience. It is important that there is some sharing, things they both enjoy doing together. Is that how you see it?
rummuser,
Thank you for the link. I did read, and comment on, that post before and appreciate the reminder. The friends of both you and Urmeela said the other one was too much of a maverick to be a good spouse. What exactly were they talking about? Being a maverick myself, I’m curious.
It seems that both you and Mike are examples of how you can’t always believe your friends’ opinions in matters of marriage. You’re a brave man to offer to be a matchmaker. 😉
Noor,
It sounds to me that reading is one of the best things you can do while on vacation. It’s a great way to understand different points of view and learn about other people’s life experiences.
I felt fully alive in high school, too. I also felt that my main job was to build a solid foundation for myself. And that meant a lot of reading.
In your latest post you wrote that you’re reading the Brothers Karamazov. I still remember reading that when I was your age. It made a profound impression on me and was clearly a great use of my time.
Thank you for coming by and commenting. 🙂
Yes Jean, that’s pretty much how I see it. I guess I would add the ability to communicate (however this is done – if it is done by not confronting anything directly or by hashing stuff out to the first principles doesn’t matter, as long as it happens).
Jean, given the example of your husband, I guess I am inclined to wait as well 😉 But to be frank, I have tough competition from Ramanna sir should he choose to excercise his single status one day!
Mike, I shall keep in touch for advise when the opportune moment arrives!
Yes, the karamazov Brothers is a great read really. I owe to Ashok, he introduced the book to me actually. 🙂
Jean, I was a footloose, Sales Professional, living off a suitcase and staying mostly in hotels when the serious courting took place. I was into big time buddy bonding, some serious drinking, gambling and billiard playing and thoroughly enjoying being a bachelor with a good job, plenty of money and great friends. None of our friends thought that I was ready for marriage I suppose.
Urmeela was a highly regarded professional artist withe many of her works in respectable collections and galleries plus a devoted group of private collectors. She was a teacher to many students of art and had a very active studio going during this time. She was the true artist, if you know what I mean! Quite unpredictable. Her friends, who were mine too mostly, felt that she would make a lousy wife to anyone, leave alone a character like me!
In the event, it all worked out just fine! As I said earlier, if I had to do it all over again, I would. I am sure that Urmeela would too.
Your trip back to those old days suggests a lifestyle I am very jealous of. Its seriously feels so good to hear about how things happened with your marriage.
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Evan,
I agree about communication. And sometimes the best way to connect is nonverbally and through humor. Some people don’t feel comfortable with long conversations, so it’s nice to have a variety of communication skills.
Noor,
Good for Ashok! How do you two know one another?
Ashok,
I wouldn’t worry about rummuser, unless he turns into a polygamist. Surely he couldn’t marry all of the available women 😉
rummuser,
Thank you for filling in more details. You have, indeed, led a fascinating life!
Jean, its not Ramanna sir who I am worried about. I am just scared all the ladies will pay attention to him 😉
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We’ve met on an online UNICEF forum, about a few years ago, probably 3 or 4 years ago. And we’ve been in touch ever since, Ashok is one of the most people I highly esteem in my life. 🙂
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Noor,
That’s great!
Maybe each person could be have the different perspective for expressing “dull”.
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tikno,
Congratulations on your new son! I love the pictures…your life is certainly more rich than dull. 🙂
Yes tikno, great pictures.
Jean,
Thank you. They are my biggest wealth. My life still in struggle to prepare a strong foundation for their future.
Bikehikebabe,
Thank you and love you
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What an interesting place this is. Why have I not stumbled my way onto it before?
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