Feeling Comfortable in Our Skin

I think the world would be a better place if more people were like Koko, not worrying about status, comparing their lives with other people’s, just feeling comfortable in their own skin.

The “two Harolds”, a gay biracial couple, managed to do this in spite of immense bigotry. One of them, Harold Mays, said,

Sometimes I stop and think about all the turmoil of … being black and gay in America. And it has not been as traumatic as it sounds. And I’m not sugarcoating this either. It happened and you move on. I also have to tell you that now I feel much more confident in who I am.
—Harold Mays in They were a gay, interracial couple in an age of relentless bigotry. The two Harolds didn’t flinch.

Hurray for them! It happens, deal with it, and move on. Create a good life for yourself.

 

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8 Responses to Feeling Comfortable in Our Skin

  1. tammy j says:

    the unsung courage it takes for many ordinary people who are just trying to live their ordinary lives in peace. and America always seems to thrive on competition. I don’t compete. it has been interesting.
    and I love Koko!

  2. I was watching a reality show, where contestants are eliminated by their own team mates…after a guy (who was so surprised) was eliminated in the second round, one of the other contestants said – we don’t brag about our achievements…we don’t say “well look at me, top dog” nor do we get pushy – we just be part of the team in the best way possible, and we use our strengths quietly.

    Of said contestant might find themselves on the chopping block for having a strength that puts others to believe, they need to be eliminated – especially when the end (winner) is striding forth…

    • Jean says:

      “…we just be part of the team in the best way possible, and we use our strengths quietly.” Or avoid being on programs like that!

    • I like watching those kind of shows – showing human traits…which week by week reveal so much more!

      I just finished watching Australian Masterchef 2018 – and you began to see how the judges favoured certain people (I slightly cheated when they got to last 12 and looked at Google for who was the winner…) Once I knew the winner, I started seeing the favouritism coming through.

      But what I’m watching right now, is another sort…it’s only just started so at this point I’m not thinking ‘xyz is going to win…”

      I think I like shows that “pit people against other people”

    • Jean says:

      I like to watch cooking shows too, but the British Bakeoff is my favorite. Not quite so much hype even though it’s a competition,

  3. I come across so many courageously lived lives that I have lost count. Every now and then when something triggers it off and I share a story with my daughter in love, she will inevitably ask me to start writing a book containing all the stories that I have in my memory.

    And not surprisingly, I don’t know too many stories of the other kind though they do exist in my life too.

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