This is another of my favorite quotes:
The only man who behaved sensibly was my tailor: he took my measure anew every time he saw me, whilst all the rest went on with their old measurements and expected them to fit.
—George Bernard Shaw
Years ago a boss said,
People never change, Jean!
My answer was
The smart ones do.
It was a good comeback line, but do you think there’s any truth to it?
Some people would agree with my boss. During our monthly Zoom meeting today one person said of their first reunion, after thirty years, that at first she wouldn’t have known who people were without their name tags, but once they started speaking their personalities came through and it was like going back in time. They hadn’t changed.
We all agreed that our looks had. One fellow showed this picture (I’m in the center).
Top of St. Peter’s in Rome
We were all so incredibly young. It was a fun time, but I wouldn’t go back. I like the changes the years have brought.
October 3, 2021
agreed! I wouldn’t go back either. and I don’t know if I’ve changed all that much but I hope I have inwardly. I actually LIKE change!
and btw…
what a great looking bunch of kids! and you were such a cute little patootie!
Life keeps getting better and better if we keep learning and growing. 🙂
I used to think people change…still do sometimes. Love the photo.
I love the photo too. I’m grateful the fellow showed it. 🙂
Yes, we should always be learning, and change when it is needed.
It’s a fun adventure.
Love seeing that photo!
😀
I’m hoping I’ve changed, I’m working on it anyway but I feel like I have.
I’m sure you have a lot. 🙂
Instead of having to ask some tech wizard about which is the best buy, with the best features would be a key thing, I wish I had known. Now my brother was a wiz on the computer – building them, making programs BUT he said “you don’t need to know” – I realised after he had passed, he was still traditional about where “women stood in the field” – whereas his grand daughter was encouraged +++
Getting a time honoured skill, that with many years of in deep practice I would be acing (not talking about art) – like I wanted to take some patisserie type courses but my stupid DH refused saying I was needed to help him. When I left my marriage, my self esteem was gone as well, and until I finally got out of the rut, it was kind of too late…
I’m with Kaitlin, you should be proud of all you have done/are doing.
It is never too late. Your art is simply amazing! You have such a gift you share so unselfishly with all of us. You kept me going through some tough times. Please don’t underestimate the impact you have on the world!
i think every one has the ability to change, but only a few will do it. I know that after 77 years of life, I have changed about 6 times, but the basic stuff is still the same. the type a personality was there as a child but was honed and changed every 20 years
I figure we’re always changing, so we might as well change in ways that make us happier.
I always took that saying to mean your core values don’t change. You can (and should) grow intelligently over time but if you were petty or a liar or impatience as a kid you are likely to carry those characteristic over into adulthood,
I don’t know. I spent a lot of time in high school and early adulthood figuring out what my core values were, building a solid foundation. I’m glad I did.
What beautiful group of young men and women — joy-full, on the cusp of all that’s headed their way!
I wouldn’t recognize the young person I once was. Certainly, I’d pity her but wouldn’t enjoy spending time together.
I’m much happier now than I was when I was younger. I think happiness is a skill, one worth developing.
Other than physically, I don’t think I have changed much but my perceptions have. I’m having trouble realizing how much I didn’t recognize all those years.
That’s an intriguing statement. I would love to hear more.
I think people change…sometimes for the good, sometimes for the worse. I even think that about myself. And some changes I like, and others I wish had not happened…
I’ve been interested in personal growth since I was young, so I think we have some say in how we change.
Do people change? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. So change for a short time and then go back to old ways. I think your response to your old boss hit the nail right on the head.
Thanks. 🙂
I think I’ve evolved but don’t see my basic core values have changed. I certainly have had to adjust, perhaps becoming more flexible in some situations adapting to life and others.
The same here. 🙂